In this day and age, people have become obsessed with “checking In” on social media. Many go out of their way to make sure the world knows what’s going in their lives or where they are and what they are doing. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter…gyms, restaurants, bars etc. Everyone is checking in!
Let me ask you a question. When was the last time you “Checked In” with yourself? When was the last time you took a long hard look in the mirror and got real with yourself about what changes must happen in your life in order to achieve success?
I’m not talking about the online, filtered, best version of you and who you put out there when you “check In” with the world. I’m talking about the real you. The one who goes to bed at night and wonders how to change the stars so that being successful isn’t something you only dream about. Yes, that’s it…that’s the person I’m looking for. Let’s explore that person.
I want you to ask yourself a couple of questions and be truthful with your answers. Remember, this isn’t social media and we don’t have to be perfect. Ask yourself and honestly answer the following questions:
- What are your current habits?
- Are those habits positive or negative?
- How are these habits serving or helping you?
A few years ago I was really lost. I would drink every day, ignore responsibilities, and ruin relationships and friendships and became really depressed about my life. I realized I was killing myself due to my daily habits. I had to take a long hard look and ask, “How is this serving me?”
As unproductive and destructive as I was, I realized I was in what I like to call the “Numb Zone.” It was much easier to stay in my self-created zone than to step outside and admit that things in my life just weren’t working. It’s a tough pill to swallow by admitting that there are things in life you need to “fix.” (By the way, no one really needs “fixing.” It’s a way of saying we simply need to become aware of what IS in life and adjust accordingly.)
The “Numb Zone” was my state of being for many years. I realized that I was “simply existing,” nothing more and nothing less. If this is where you find yourself right now at the moment you are reading this, I want to be the first to say that this too shall pass. Let’s call a spade a spade though. This is going to take some work!
The first thing you need to understand is that your daily habits shape and set your “foundation” in life. Are you stopping by Starbucks every day to get a 510 calorie Frappuccino “just because” it’s a habit and on your way to work? Is it because “all of my coworkers go there” or because “I need coffee to survive”? This is all very understandable and trust me, I get it. I need my morning coffee too!
So, how about we start small? Try something new. Go for a 0-100 calories instead of 500? Starbucks has many options to choose from. Here are some other ideas:
- Salad instead of fries
- Stairs instead of elevators
- Walking away vs. starting a fight
- Water instead of soda
- Go for a walk instead of watching tv
- Listen to personal development instead of radio
- Read a book outside instead of indoors
No one said you have to go cold turkey on old bad habits. As a matter of fact, we recommend you start slow but make the change to actually start. Just starting is an accomplishment in itself. Start with making conscious decisions to make more positive decisions. Remember to start making those decisions more often than not. Think of it this way and ask yourself, “Do my current habits align with and support the person I am striving to be?” Would the “new you” have those habits?
Over the next few days and weeks, make a conscious effort to review your life with a new set of eyes and ears. Be aware of what you are doing over the next few days. What habits are you making on autopilot? Do those habits serve you or do are they keeping you from reaching your targets? You can not continue to do the same things over and over and expect different results.
Here is a good way to start making conscious decisions and convert those decisions into positive daily habits that will help improve your life.
- Evaluate: notice and admit current negative habits in your life.
- Adjust: make changes that will slowly help you achieve the goal of a new you.
- Attack: commitment, effort and a true, honest desire to make changes is key to start the transformation. Only you can make the new you successful.
Remember, if something is not working, only you can make the changes. It will be uncomfortable, but it will also be well worth it!
I am not a doctor nor do I play one on Facebook but I encourage you to be open to personal development. Be open to admitting that you are human and human beings are not perfect.