Spotting a liar in your midst isn’t necessarily the easiest task- that is, unless you know the telltale signs to look for when someone isn’t being candid. Lying requires extra thinking and even the best liars are more apt to display conflicting emotions when they’re being untruthful.
Facial expressions and nonverbal reactions to the story that is being told- rather than the actual words that are being spoken- is what you should be looking for.
“If you notice serious pattern changes, more than likely, something in their story is amiss.”
~ Jack Manza
Remember that truth comes out via actions, rather than words. Use these telltale signs of deception to gauge when someone may not be telling you the truth.
Micro expressions are those neurologically designed, subconscious facial movements that tell you something is off. Examples of micro expressions during lying are flared nostrils, rapid breathing or blinking, nibbling on the lip and changes in the tone of their voice. These are all signs that the brain is going into overdrive trying to keep up with the lie that is being told.
Fidgeting or Minimal Movement
Fidgeting while lying is a true telltale sign, so the best liars will actually work at keeping their bodies completely still to avoid that sort of nervous reaction, like putting their hands behind their backs.
If eye contact is minimal and the discussion isn’t one that involves some level of embarrassment, it’s more likely that your subject may not be telling the truth. Avoidance of eye contact altogether, or breakage of eye contact as they go into detail with their story may indicate that something is off.
If you’re seeking out a specific lie, a great way to begin the conversation is with neutral, simple questions about the weather, upcoming plans or anything that they would respond comfortably and honestly to. Watch for patterns in their body language when they are telling the truth before delving into the subject matter at hand. At that point, you should easily be able to see a shift as they answer more serious questions.
While these are some signs to look for when someone is lying to you, there’s no completely fool-proof indicator. The best bet is to use your judgment and logical reasoning along with actively looking for the signs that someone isn’t being honest.